Society's Recognition

As you guys are aware I am trying to understand why women stay in domestic violent relationships, and I now think that the problem is not knowing why women stay in abusive relationship, but why society thinks that women who stay are almost asking for the years of abuse. I noticed that society shows women in domestic violent relationships having alternatives. However when they do this they show the easy road. When I mean the easy road I mean the fact that they always say is that help is a phone call away. Although, as I now know it is a difficult, scary, not guaranteed road. The idea that these women know that they will receive the help and outcome they want is not always true. Also the process to actually see that you partnership is no longer working, and that the love that you believe was there is actually not is hard. Especially women who had years when there husbands were "normal", because they feel and think that the man they first met is somewhere "in there" and they can get him back. Also if a women has a family it can put a big strain in why women would feel the need to stay. Overall society does not play a good role in showing these reasons. Instead they state one should be able to get out of these relationship fast.
I remember watching a Lifetime movie about a teenage girl who dies because of her abusive boyfriend, and at the end the actress states that when people are in these relationships to find help. Besides that she also state for friends that know about these relationships to state something. Although reality is that many of these domestic violent cases the women is isolated or she plays a good role in acting like everything is perfect. In other words she does not want to say anything which is understandable now to me. In conclusion I think in order for us to help women in domestic violent relationships society has to accept that getting out or looking for help is not so black and white when dealing with domestic violent women.