The Voiceness

In my discovery to understand the reason why women stay in domestic Violence i jumped to the website through the hotline called Courage Network where women come together to share poems, stories, and insight in Domestic Violence. There I came through an insight by the Voiceness where they explain that people go to relationships not really knowing themselves, and sometimes that causes them to not really know there partner, and I couldn't agree more. They state that we pour our hearts and life in their hands hoping they will completely understand you. However, how can they when we don't even know who we are as a person. This makes complete of why some women in domestic violence don't really know their partner causing them to meet them in a harsher way, where they then feel it is too late to escape. It is like Voiceness states we must first love ourselves in order to ever be love by someone else. We as people have the problem of looking for love at all the wrong places because we ourselves don't know what we want. Maybe these women stay because they think they know what they want, and feel that their partner knows them the best. When in reality maybe their partner took advantage of this vulnerability and causes them to feel safe in an ironic way. As stated in my other blogs I am seeing the factors that might play a role into causing women to stay and doing so I am understanding that the decision is not easy and difficult to make, especially in this situation when you feel that the only person that understands you is actually harming you instead.