Why Stay

I have decided to create a blog where I can get a better understanding of why women stay in domestic violent relationships. Perhaps because I come from this generation I do not capture the concept of staying where a man is belittling you, or finds it necessary to use force in order to make his point. One of the first lessons many of us learn as children is if someone hits you tell the teacher or authorities. That mind set has completely changed now. I never got to meet my grandfathers and do not really know if I would have liked to meet them, for they both use to physically abusive my grandmothers. When my parents told me this information I had asked them why they stayed so long, and the response went as followed;"They stayed for us, because they knew the family was important". However, in my eyes how is keeping a family together great when all the people are experience is violence. I have also read literature where women state that they stayed because of social construction. For example one spoke about how life for African American men was hard and challenging, and by telling the authorities they were just making things worse for their partner. Although, in my mind I do not see how they can feel pity for someone that does not pity her when he beats her. This is why I created this blog, I want people to challenge my ideal and make me learn new things. Maybe there is a justification for staying in these relationships and I'm not viewing it properly.