Monday, May 3, 2010
Finally
I now have a better and clearer understanding in why women stay in abusive relationships. Starting with one of the first article I wrote about in this blog and the fact that doctors, or nurses are not always properly trained to deal with this. Also the fact that they ask when women come in with bruises or cuts. Women not feeling comfortable enough to know that they "official" they are telling will help them is something very important in understanding why they do not always go to authority. Besides that we can see the significant impact that having children causes when women want to leave but cannot. In the beginning I thought it was because they wanted the picture perfect family picture. While in reality it the fact that because many of these women do not have their own homes they become homeless, and then lose custody of their children (or that is what they think). Women who stay in domestic violence have ways to pull through the abuse, and that same mechanism they use do defend there abuser is the same way they find the power to leave. The process of leaving is a hard thing to come through and society does not make it easier as stated in my last blog. Love can be blind and can sometimes kill. What I was hoping from this blog is getting a better understanding for why women stayed i domestic relationship and I feel as tough I have succeeded. Now what I hope my blog can do is help women in domestic relationships understand that there are ways that they can leave that will secure there families, or them. I also hope that if any women who is currently or did go through domestic violence know that I understand why they have kept that position and know to look and think if it is worth staying in. Love can be blind but it shouldn't be deadly.
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Alysi your blogs really made me think about why women of domestic violence continue to stay in these abusive relationships? Your passages capture a wide spectrum of the topic in the sense that she covers various factors why women remain in these violent relationships and fail to seek help. You first mention that some women remain in violent relationships because they are financially unstable and their spouse serve as the breadwinner which in turn creates dependency. Prior to reading this blog I myself did a project on domestic abuse in Egypt and one research that I stumbled upon stated that women who depend on male breadwinners were most likely to report abuse and live in poverty as women who occupied jobs were most likely to report violence and contribute and support their family. One may really think about the underlying factors behind why women really do stay in violent relationships because you see successful, strong and financially stabled women who are in violent relationships and not report them. Your blog fulfills the requirements because you address the issue that you wanted to fully understand, found articles that are related to the issue and relate that to personal experiences. You seem really adamant about the topic because of the way you gave examples of your grandparents and visited websites where you were able to experience what a woman living in a violent environment would feel if she were to visit a site for women experiencing domestic violence.
ReplyDeleteYour blog is very affective and tackles an important issue facing many women in United States society. I also thought the video was an appropriate add on as well. This really provides the reader with insite through the addressing of the problem, resulting in further inquiry, and ending with educated assumptions. It is scary to think that some women have to deal with this sort of terrible behavior by the other half of their species. Addressing the subject is the right thing to do, and it may not be something I have experienced myself, but your blog has really made the subject prominent and now stands out as more of an issue as abusive relationships seemed to be swept under the rug. Thank you for your inquiry.
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