So as my blogs states I am trying to understand why women stay in abusive relationships, I have done a little research. Based on this article written by Andrew R. Baly I learned that many of these women that stay in these abusive relationships are a cause by the social and cultural constructions. The article concludes that many of these women can stay in these types of relationships as a fulfillment of being a woman. These types of women would go through a process in their mind to analyze what they were doing wrong in the relationship to make their men react the way they did. This article viewed that these women who use romantic and femininity discourses, tended to have the need to defend their abuser because they did not want to be viewed weak by society. In my opinion however a women should never consider herself weak because she is physically or mentally being hurt by her spouse. Although I do understand how this mindset might come from. Society has become very public about the idea that women are just as strong as men and that they can handle any situation. So what happens when this type of imagery is placed to the public, it becomes harder for women to leave without them thinking that the public sphere is criticizing their ability to control the environment they have created? I still don’t completely grasp why women are staying but I do see a factor that plays a role to their decision.
I agree with your stance on domestic violence, and ask myself why a woman would want to stay in a relationship where they experience abuse. I think our generation is more apt to raise these kinds of questions because of the changing gender roles within society. Like you stated in your first blog, women today have earned more power and don't need to rely on men. In the case of your grandmothers, it makes sense to me that they would stay in abusive marriages for the sake of their families. This article by Andrew R. Baly provides a different perspective on why women would stay in these relationships. Some women believe that their abuse may be viewed by society as a form of weakness, so they chose to hide it. I think that they need to step back and look at the bigger picture because domestic violence is a public issue that many families experience. I also agree with you on the fact that women lie in order to protect their spouses when they obviously don't care about their well being. I know that I would never put myself in a relationship where I experienced physical abuse, but women now have other alternatives. Some women that have little education or no financial resources might be more apt to lie for the sake of their husbands as a means of survival. Because they have no escape routes, they might feel trapped and become more apt to lying about abuse. Overall, I think your topic is very interesting and hopefully through more research some of your questions are being answered.
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